“Nothing can ever overcome that one enormous sex superiority, that even the male child is born closer to his mother than to his father. No one, staring at that frightful female privilege, can quite believe in the equality of the sexes. “G.K. Chesterton – The Higher Anarchy, Whats Wrong with the World
The fight for equality between the sexes was, in Chesterton’s estimation, the modern surrender of woman. I agree with him, but it took a long time for me to see what exactly he meant by this and what exactly was going on in our culture to limit women to such a restrictive goal.
Growing up, I was told that women were “breaking glass ceilings” and finally achieving freedom by rising to positions previously only held by men. I truly believed my liberation would be found by rising up the corporate or academic ladder and fulfilling my potential in the workplace.
Fertility, for a girl born in the 70s, was something to be controlled and even eliminated through chemical sterilization until it was eventually needed. It was an extra, mostly inconvenient, aspect of the female body. A curse, if you will. Something to be dealt with, and definitely an impediment to the higher aims of life – a fulfilling career, financial success, and self fulfillment.
This lie – that female fertility is a disease to be treated – this complete abdication – is at the heart of the crisis of culture we have today. Women have always had the power. We have had this frightful and awesome power to participate in the creation of new life. This power has always been and will always be the most important distinction between the sexes. The ability to bring forth new life is far and away the human function which most closely participates in the divine life. We cooperate with God to bring new eternal souls into the world within our very bodies.
Women are not defective men – we have certainly moved beyond Aristotle in our view on women. Men can have sex without the possibility of becoming pregnant – true. Why would women want to emulate that? The transgender phenomenon strikes at the heart of this hatred of fertility. Women as young as 16 have had their reproductive organs removed to “affirm” their gender. Transgenderism is, at its heart, an attack on the Incarnation. Mary’s “yes” to conceiving Christ in her womb is echoed each time a woman says “yes” to life in her own womb. This continual echoing of incarnational love reflects the beauty of the Incarnation of Christ throughout time.
Women exercise their greatest power when they participate in the creation and nurturing of new souls. While it is not every woman’s call to be a physical mother, it is a very great power. We can and must recognize the importance and value of this preeminent role of women if we are to value their unique contribution to society and ultimately their privileged and elevated status.
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I wish I could share this with my bisexual daughter who is no longer a practicing Catholic.
We have a good and loving relationship. We are beginning to be able to discuss topics like this more. I am learning a lot. Her disagreement with the Church is based in deep love and empathy for the other.
I can’t forward this article to her because I sense it would be unkind to here at this time.
Have you written pieces directed toward young women like my daughter?
Have you checked out my talk from the Conference? I would definitely preview it if I were you.
We have been sold a bill of goods. Women are worth so much more than our culture tells us, but everything has been twisted to devalue the uniquely feminine gifts.
I will pray for both of you. I trust that God has a plan, and He will use her love and empathy to help her towards a more perfect understanding of her dignity and worth.
Thank you Susan!
Yes I have seen your Chesterton Conference talk. That is how I joyfully and gratefully found the Domestic Empress. You are doing wonderful work.
“I trust that God has a plan, and He will use her love and empathy to help her towards a more perfect understanding of her dignity and worth.”
Do you have any guess as to what that plan would look like given that her apparent disagreement with the Church is that her dignity and worth are not acknowledged by the Church? Do you know of any bisexual women who have already experienced such a beautiful plan?
Hello, I’m not sure how old your daughter is, but Avera Maria Santo is a 25 year old online blogger who is Catholic and same sex attracted. Her website is a little old now but you can find it here https://couragegulfcoast.wixsite.com/blog
She also has some blogs posted to “LifeTeen” which you can find here https://lifeteen.com/blog/learning-made-love/
Her LifeTeen blogs can definitely be useful to young adults.
Fr. Mike Schmitz has a book on the topic of same sex attraction too, Made For Love. https://ignatius.com/made-for-love-mflp/
You can also check out https://couragerc.org/about/
“ Courage members are men and women who experience same-sex attractions and who have made a commitment to strive for chastity”
Hope this points you in the right direction
Thank you, Megan, for these excellent resources.